Do you know who you really are?
Self talk, that is, what we continually tell ourselves we are, may not actually be who we are. You need to know the truth about who you really are. If you are continually saying, “I don’t know what to do,” and you feel a lot of ambiguity maybe you need to separate fact from fiction.
What goes through your mind — what you listen to — determines your experiences of life.
When you hear yourself say something in your mind to yourself, ask “Is this fact or fiction?”
The future is unknown. Facts are reality. For instance, if you say, “I’m too old to go to school.” Is that a fact? No. If you say, “I’ll never be any good.” How do you know that? That is not a fact.
The idea is that when you hear yourself say something in your head you must question if it is really true. If not eliminate that type of self talk. It’s not doing you any good. Unless you test and verify your assumptions you are living in a destructive dream. Ask is what I’m saying fact or fiction.
Confusing fact with fiction is the domain of insecurity.
Here you have a choice: Either tame the doubts and fears and insecurities . . . Or feed them. If you feed them then they’ll grow. If you tame them, and don’t feed them, like all habits they will diminish. If you’re frustrated and unhappy it’s because you’ve been living a choiceless, reflexive life in which you’re confused . . . , not fact-based self talk feeds the confusion.
When self talk says “I can’t,” it doesn’t mean you won’t. Maybe you can. How do you know you can’t until you try? Things change day to day. Today you can.
Doubt isn’t the truth. It only keeps you from seeing the truth. You have to separate your thinking from doubt. Fictions are based on interpretations and probability predictions. Make this distinction and then begin to scrutinize these thoughts.
Just recognize a fact from a fiction. Be aware of what you’re doing. Examine. Recognize what’s going on in your inner dialog. Are fictions your habit? Most habits, since they occur on an almost subconscious level, may not be aware to you. You have to listen carefully. There is a moment before reacting. Examine that moment. Listen carefully when you make a statement in your mind. Know you have a choice.
When it comes to your psychological states, your habits of negative depression, and insecurity, are simply habits and can be altered. They are fictions that are merely being treated as facts.